24th June 2025 | Written by Rebeca Johnson, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist.

The thought of suggesting couples therapy can stir up so much fear: How will they respond? Does my partner even notice we have issues? Will this be the end of our relationship? These are valid concerns, and approaching this conversation with care is key.

Many people worry that bringing up therapy is a sign of ultimate failure or a direct step towards separation. However, the true risk often lies not in seeking help, but in allowing unresolved issues to fester. Choosing to address challenges proactively is, in fact, a brave act of commitment to your shared future.

Beyond Crisis: When Therapy Can Truly Help

There's a common belief in British society that people only go to couples therapy when their relationship is in crisis. Perhaps one partner has cheated, whether through sex texting, problematic sexual behaviours, or physical contact with another person.

However, therapy offers support for a much broader range of relationship themes. It can help couples:

• Change unhealthy communication patterns.
• Truly get to know one another, romantically or sexually.
• Reconnect after drifting apart due to children or life changes.
• Navigate the strain of health issues on the relationship.

Beyond traditional norms, some couples are even exploring ideas of open relationships after watching shows like "The Great Sex Experiment" or "Couples Therapy" on the BBC. Looking for support on new dynamics. Whatever challenges you're experiencing, taking that crucial first step towards a conversation is key.

Finding the Right Moment.

The best way to approach this conversation often comes down to one thing: timing. While it might not always be possible, choosing a moment when you both have a clear head is ideal.

Consider opportunities like:

• A calm conversation over dinner.
• A relaxing walk in nature.
• First thing in the morning, or last thing at night, when distractions are minimal.

Remember the saying: "If you don't ask, you don't get." If you're aware of unhealthy patterns in your relationship, it's possible your partner is too. They might even be more open to the idea of therapy than you imagine.

Understanding the Investment: The Cost of Therapy

It's natural to consider the financial aspect when thinking about couples therapy. Therapy is indeed an investment, and it might seem like a significant upfront cost. My fees, like many therapists, are typically structured per session, and full details are available on my website.

However, it's helpful to compare this to other investments we make: a holiday, a new car, or home improvements. Therapy is an investment in the very foundation of your life, your relationship. With, avoiding deep-seated issues can lead to greater costs down the line. Whether it's continued emotional distress, relationship breakdown, or even the immense financial and emotional toll of separation. Investing now can lead to long-term savings in many aspects of your life.

What You Can Gain from Therapy

Beyond the financial investment, the return you get from couples therapy can be profound and deeply valuable. This is where the true "care" for your relationship blossoms.

Through therapy, you may gain:

• Deeper Connection: Learning to truly understand and connect with your partner on a profound level.
• Effective Communication: Gaining essential tools to express your needs, listen actively, and resolve conflicts constructively.
• Renewed Intimacy: Rebuilding both sexual and emotional closeness that might have faded.
• A Stronger Foundation: Creating a resilient relationship that is better equipped to navigate life's inevitable future challenges.
• Personal Growth: Both partners often experience significant individual growth, leading to a more fulfilling life together.
• Peace of Mind: Reducing stress, anxiety, and resentment with each other within the relationship.

It just takes one step into the unknown, to learn new awareness's and the potential to create a more meaningful and thoughtful relationship.

Reach out today, if you have any questions. Or would like to book in for a consultation.

Rebeca Johnson, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist Dip, PgDip, MBACP, RegCOSRT.

Website: www.trustingheartcounselling.co.uk